As with many in the public eye, RuPaul Charles and Georges LaBar‘s relationship is often under the spotlight, but it’s far from your run-of-the-mill Hollywood romance. In this article, we will explore the nature of their relationship and reveal its unconventional dynamics that defy traditional expectations.
RuPaul met his future husband, Georges LeBar, back in 1994. The two came across each other in a nightclub named the Limelight. Looking back on the times he first met Georges, the drag icon told Oprah Winfrey Network the following in 2013:
“I met George on the dance floor at Limelight in New York City. He was on the dance floor, dancing like a maniac. I had to go over and say, ‘What are you going through?’ It’s also because he’s actually 6’7″, so he’s taller than I am. So, of course, I had to notice him. That was 19 years ago.”
According to BuzzFeed News, Georges LeBar made RuPaul’s long-time dreams made true, not only by being taller than 6’4″ but also by being a sensitive man:
“He’s so kind and funny. I remember praying, ‘I want a sweet, sensitive man,’ and I got an Australian who’s just lovely.”
RuPaul and his future husband dated for 23 years before tying the knot in 2017. During an interview with Hollywood Today Live, RuPaul announced the news to his fans for the first time on television:
“You know what? I don’t think I’ve said this. I’ve never said this on television before. We are married. We are married, yes. This is scoop! I’ve never said it before.”
Their decision to get married after all those years actually had a political reason behind it. The same year RuPaul announced their marriage, he spoke to Entertainment Tonight and revealed that the 2016 election results had a big share in their decision:
“We are devoted to each other. We don’t stand on ceremony. We thought we didn’t have to get married. But then, in light of what’s happening currently in the world today, what’s happening in Washington, we thought, you know what? Let’s do it. Let’s just do it because there’s too much at stake with our businesses… So, that’s why we did it.”
In the same interview, RuPaul stated that what matters most is their devotion to each other, and being married doesn’t mean anything for the two:
“That paper don’t mean nothin’! If you’re devoted to a person, nothing’s gonna change that. And after 23 years, you know, hey, I know him. He knows me. I love him. He’s my favorite person on the planet I’ve met. I’ve met a lot of people. He’s my favorite person.”
Georges LaBar isn’t someone from the spotlight — he prefers to stay away from paparazzi and doesn’t give interviews. He is a painter with a 60,000-acre ranch in Wyoming. As reported by the Guardian, LaBar inherited the ranch from his grandfather, who ran a sheep and cattle operation there for decades.
RuPaul and LaBar spend time in Wyoming when they need some escape from celebrity life. As it’s not a populated state, RuPaul told ET that he considers these trips as ‘little getaways‘:
“He works the ranch, I work in Hollywood, and we meet up in fabulous places. You know, he needs breaks from time to time because it’s a very different life. So, we plan little getaways once a month, you know? New York or Maui or San Francisco, or Vegas. We do that.”
However, in 2020, RuPaul found himself amid controversy for the LeBar ranch. Speaking to NPR, the drag queen revealed that there weren’t cattle and sheep grazing on their hills. RuPaul said operating their ranch means land management to him:
“Well, a modern ranch, 21st-century ranch, is really land management. You lease the mineral rights to oil companies, and you sell water to oil companies. And then you lease the grazing rights to different ranchers.”
What he’s been referring to is called fracking, and environmentalists later discovered that there were over 35 active oil and gas wells on just 10,000 acres of their property. However, this wasn’t the only thing RuPaul and LeBar’s relationship made the headlines. In an interview with Vanity Fair, the drag queen revealed that he and LeBar are in an open marriage. According to RuPaul, this wasn’t something they decided:
“We didn’t decide. The hoax is that monogamy is something that can actually happen. I mean, I’m as poly as they come, but monogamy is definitely something that can and does successfully happen all the time. He’s entitled to his opinion, though.”
RuPaul then continued explaining what ‘open marriage’ is to him. Admitting that he didn’t like the idea of putting restraints on his husband, the drag icon said what’s important is their love for each other:
“I wouldn’t want to put restraints on the person I love most on this planet. If you get something going that you cannot resist and that is going to make you happy, then go for it because the truth is, I know in my heart of hearts — like I’ve never known anything before — that that man loves me more than anything else in this world.”
You can watch RuPaul’s Vanity Fair interview below and see him answer personal questions about his identity, family, culture, and work.